esse quam videri

esse quam videri is a greek/latin phrase that simply means "to be, rather than to seem". This phrase jumped out at me because I totally believe this is important and think that this would improve the world so much.

esse quam videri - I hate when people take what I say wrong. I'm not going to intentionally offend someone very often, and when I do, you won't have to wonder if I am or not. So, if it just seems I am, then you're probably wrong, so just relax and assume the best.

esse quam videri - I want relationships to be good...not just seem to be good. I'm a "let's just get it all out there in the open, so there's no misunderstanding" type of person. I tend to be very aware of problems and faults in myself and other people, but I am also usually more sensitive to the fact that we all have quirks, and I don't get too sensitive about some over others. I do appreciate differences and how those differences can be strengths to others' weaknesses.

esse quam videri - We are stuck with family. I don't need to pretend I'm best friends with family to get together and enjoy them. Extended family time, especially in-law time, might never be most enjoyable time, but deep down I believe it is necessary and bearable time with people you love and that love you and that will be there when you need them. So, you don't have to make it seem like something it's not...just let it be what it is and relax and you might even find yourself enjoying it...or at least entertained...lol.

esse quam videri - Our walk with Christ can always seem better than it is as long as we focus on what we do and look like rather than who we really are. Yes, it is scary to look at who we really are because I hate seeing what thoughts can go through my head and what I could be capable of without accountability. But the truth is, if we spend the time focusing on "being" instead of just how we "seem to be," it would fix them both. And although fixing who we are feels like a daunting task, ignoring doesn't help anything...in fact it hurts us.

Test me, O Lord, and try me, examine my heart and my mind. Psalm 26:2
Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me. Psalm 51:10
ESSE QUAM VIDERI